Children have different perspectives than adults. Some small problems in their lives are very interesting to them. They like to share their feelings and discoveries with their parents. teachers, and friends. If an adult violently interrupts a child, the child will think that he or she is disrespected, untrusted, and misunderstood. These lead to frustration in the child’s relationship with the adult, and the child may deliberately ignore the adult. Therefore, you should listen to the child all the way through his or her speech, and then ask questions or give advice.

Although children are still young, they have the independence to express their own feelings, opinions, and thoughts. Letting the child finish his or her talking is a way of respecting the child’s personality. The child is justified and should be appreciated. If the child is unreasonable, he/she can exchange opinions further until the child’s heart is untied. Only in this way can we build a healthy and harmonious relationship between parents and children. Without the patience to listen to the child to say what to say, its negative impact is obvious. First, the words that the children say are not taken seriously. They can only bury their secrets in their hearts. It is difficult for the nature of their parents to know what the child thinks so that the education of the children will be untargeted. Second, the child’s voice is not respected. Over time, it will have a confrontation with the ancestors, and the two sides will not trust each other and communicate difficulties. Third, the parents did not let the children finish the words, which is not conducive to the improvement of children’s ability to express, but also easy to make children feel inferior.

In addition, the ancestors can think differently. If they are interrupted by others if they have not finished speaking, will they feel that their dignity has been violated? Will there be a desire to say it? If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it to others. The ancestors can’t do what they want because they are elders. They don’t wait until the child finishes and impose their ideas on him.

Therefore, ask the ancestors to learn from the grandmother in the opening case. When talking and communicating with the children, they must let the children finish the words and listen to him patiently. Let us look down on the children and love the children with sincerity and generosity. Always remind yourself: “Let the children finish the words!”

A. Encourage your child to express their opinions

The child also has the right to speak. When he wants to talk, the ancestors should give him the opportunity to express. You will find that children who are always interrupted by the word “speaking in the mouth” will slowly become silent, too lazy to talk to adults. This is because the “ban” of adults makes him feel that his opinions are not taken seriously, and he is also white. Once this happens, the child’s self-expression will gradually decrease. This is very unfavorable for his growth and life. Therefore, the opportunity for the ancestors to express their opinions to the children is to avoid all kinds of adverse consequences. Of course, in addition to letting the child say when he wants to talk, encourage him to say when he is silent. Because some children have no awareness or courage to justify themselves. Encouraging a child to express his thoughts, dissatisfaction or grievances will make him become good at thinking and will enhance his sense of autonomy and expression.

B. Focus on listening to the child

When a child confides to you, even if there is a disagreement, the ancestors should temporarily suppress their thoughts and emotions, no matter what the child’s thoughts are, they must accept it. Try not to just finish “You talk about what you think, Grandma understands” and suddenly I feel that the child’s thoughts are wrong. I didn’t wait for him to finish the conversation and interrupt him. Doing so may convey the idea of an adult to the child more quickly, but the child knows that the adult does not really listen to what he or she will close. Therefore, please listen to your child’s words, analyze your child’s problems, and draw good conclusions so that the child can recognize the mistakes and correct their behavior. As long as you listen carefully to your child, you can see the desired result.