Kindergarten is like a “small lake” where children experience joy and happiness alongside occasional conflicts, contradictions, and misunderstandings. As parents, we naturally hope that our little ones can navigate these “unfriendly” moments without feeling wronged or bullied. At the same time, we want them to grow into confident and friendly individuals who can get along with others.

However, children are still young and vulnerable, and it’s natural for parents to worry. Can our child integrate into the group? How will they get along with their classmates? Will they face grievances or challenges? These questions linger in our minds.

“My child is now in the middle class of kindergarten. Over time, they have experienced happiness, helplessness, fear, and even grievances. Although there are days when they still hesitate to go, I’ve seen significant growth in their emotional resilience and behavior. They come home excited to share new songs, stories, and experiences from kindergarten.”

Children’s growth is inseparable from the careful guidance of their parents. What kinds of conflicts or challenges might arise in a kindergarten setting, and how can we guide our children effectively? Let’s explore some common scenarios and strategies for navigating them together.

1. If a child says, “I don’t like you, I don’t want to play with you,” what should you do?

Guidance: “Sweetheart, everyone has their likes and dislikes, and it’s normal for people to express their preferences. Just like how Mommy sometimes needs to say no because she’s busy, others may also have reasons for their choices. If someone says this to you, it’s okay to feel upset, but remember, you are wonderful just as you are. You can respond calmly by saying, ‘That’s okay, but I still like playing with you.’ Or, find someone else to play with who appreciates your company.”

2. What if you raise your hand to answer a question, but the teacher doesn’t call on you?

Guidance: “I’m so proud of you for raising your hand and participating! If the teacher doesn’t call on you, it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. Sometimes, the teacher has to give everyone a chance. Next time, you can try raising your hand a little higher and saying confidently, ‘Teacher, I know the answer!’ This might help the teacher notice you more easily.”

3. If someone pushes or hits you, what should you do?

Guidance: “Hitting or pushing is not okay, and it’s important to stand up for yourself. If someone does this to you, say loudly and firmly, ‘Stop! Hitting is wrong.’ If they don’t stop, you can walk away and tell a teacher. Remember, defending yourself is not wrong. Mommy and Daddy will always support you.”

4. What if another child takes your toy while you’re playing with it?

Guidance: “If someone grabs your toy, tell them clearly, ‘I was playing with this first. Please wait until I’m done.’ It’s okay to stand your ground. If they don’t listen, you can ask a teacher for help. Sharing is important, but it’s also okay to finish playing before giving someone else a turn.”

5. What should you do if someone laughs at you for eating slowly, having a big head, or drawing badly?

Guidance: “Sweetheart, everyone is different, and that’s what makes us special. If someone laughs at you, it’s important to tell them firmly, ‘Laughing at others is not kind.’ You can also remind yourself of your strengths and the things you’re good at. No one is perfect, and being kind is more important than being good at everything.”

6. If you feel like your teacher doesn’t like you, what should you do?

Guidance: “Honey, everyone has their own preferences, even teachers. But remember, it’s not about whether the teacher likes you; it’s about doing your best in class and learning new things. Focus on being kind, listening, and participating. That’s what really matters.”

7. If you want to join someone else’s game, how should you approach them?

Guidance: “When you want to join a game, don’t be afraid to ask! You can say, ‘Can I join your game?’ If they say yes, play together happily. If they say no, that’s okay too. You can find other friends to play with or start your own game.”

8. What if someone asks you to do something dangerous or something you don’t like, and they threaten not to play with you if you refuse?

Guidance: “True friends won’t ask you to do things that make you uncomfortable. If someone tries to pressure you, you can say, ‘No, I don’t want to do that.’ If they call you a ‘coward’ or threaten not to play with you, walk away and find other friends. It’s more important to be safe and true to yourself than to please others.”

In Conclusion

Parents are a child’s first and most important teachers. Guiding children during their formative years is a privilege and a responsibility. Using role-play and spending time discussing scenarios like the ones above can equip your child with the tools to handle conflicts and challenges. Encourage your child to engage with other kids, as every interaction—whether joyful or challenging—is an opportunity for growth.

Through daily practice and real-life experiences, our little ones will spread their wings and grow stronger, more resilient, and ready to take on the world!