How to Deal With Arguments Between Your Children
- By : Jessica Jiayi W
Some of the variables and stresses that occur in life, such as moving to a new house or starting daycare can make the relationship between your children and their siblings more complex. However, patience, understanding, and constant teaching can help your child build a stable relationship with anyone.
Let the older children take care of the others
When you are taking care of the younger children, assign some tasks to the older child. This way, he or she will feel important. Simple things like letting the older child pick shirts and prepare diapers can do the job. You may also want to encourage the older child to teach the younger ones to do things with him or her, like playing games and reading books.
Teach the older child to share
Teach the older child that their younger brothers and sisters may not understand how to share. Ask them to set a good example and be a good role model. You can also get the younger children to learn to share through the older child’s example.
Stay neutral in fights
It is important to remember in quarrels that you should not take sides. Your main focus is to help the children solve the problem together, not to focus on blaming everyone. give them some ways of solving the problem. For example, if the children are fighting over a toy, you can say, “Each of you gets the toy for five minutes. I’ll set a timer to make sure everyone gets the same amount of time.” This approach lets the children have a calm attitude while dealing with problems.
Let the children deal with the problem
With small arguments between children, try to let them resolve the problem on their own. However, if it comes to physical violence, and/or physical damage, then you must separate the children immediately. If there are unsolved problems, this might serve as a hidden danger in their sibling relationship.